Step #10 of the 10 Steps to Sexy Diet: Living in the moment is sexy
Step away from distractions! And yes, that includes your smartphone. A romantic interlude merits a moment of technology silence.
Take time to connect and savor the moment. Make eye contact. And whole-heartedly savor these special moments with your partner. And this goes for long term relationships and those that are newly formed. Because regardless of whether you are in a blossoming or long-term relationship, don’t you both deserve the attention of the other without the distractions of our modern world?
Modern distractions make it hard to savor the moment
Of course, for some of us, even shutting out the noise of the world can’t stop the noise in our heads. Author and Buddhist scholar B. Alan Wallace suggests that the modern world contributes to our mental fragmentation and distraction.
Tips for savoring the moment
If you’re one of those people who can’t shut out the world by shutting out the technology, you might need to take extra steps to be able to enjoy this kind of connection with your partner.
It might be as simple as taking a deep breath. You can even ask your partner to take one with you. Sure, it’s a tired, old cliche, but it’s a move that requires instant mindfulness. Isn’t this step to savor the moment worth a try?
If concentrating on breathe is a technique for living in the moment that works for you, consider taking this practice one step further with meditation. Meditating alone or with your partner can not only improve awareness of the moment but also help improve sleep, reduce stress and improve self confidence.
A different technique for being in the moment to consider is investing in a fish tank. Fish are scientifically proven to help reduce stress and increase mindfulness.
Making deposits in your lover’s emotional bank account
Being together, living in the moment can influence your sex life almost as much as the foods you put in your body. Relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman calls these savor-worthy moments when you turn to each other deposits in your emotional bank account.
And according to Gottman’s theory, trust and intimacy are dependent on deposits into the account. Stop. Connect. Feed the account and you’ll rack up some very rewarding interest.
For some, cooking together could be that time. Try shutting off the phones and making one of our romantic menus together.
Enjoying the moment can make you more sexy
Step #10 may not be the easiest step of our 10 Steps to being your most sexy self but it’s just as important as feeding your body and getting regular exercise.
And once you get the hang of it, you may decide that savoring the moment is the most rewarding step of them all.
This article was written in 2015 and most recently updated in January 2019.
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